Ah my dear GPS. Like many things in life, when you work, you are wonderful. When you don’t, interesting things happen. Today I spent a lot of time convincing you we weren’t 40 kilometers down the road.
Life doesn’t come with a GPS, so sometimes we find ourselves wandering off the route we planned. Is that always a bad thing?
When getting lost is scary
I have a habit of planning things out. Not always to the extent that I know – or try to control – everything that happens, but enough that I know what I want and how I’m going to get there. I’m getting off the route, sometimes because I choose to and sometimes because something forces me off. I have to admit, being forced off is the scary part. I get forced off because I’m not keeping my eye on what’s going on. I get forced off because I get so tightly focused on what I want to go, and don’t see that other people are making plans too.
When getting lost is fun
When I choose to step off the path. When I have some sense of control or contribution to my diversion. In my writing plan, I stepped off the path and decided to start writing romances. It pushed my writing plan around because the current series all have more books to write. But, I found a way, because I chose the change of direction.
The bottom line
I think the way to become more resilient is to test yourself and step off the path you set once in a while. If you don’t, then everything that gets you lost, or changes your plans, comes from the outside. I have a fear of being lost. Today, my GPS couldn’t find the hotel. I didn’t freak out. I knew I was on the right road, I just turned around and eventually I found the hotel. The thing is I had no idea how long the road was, I just trusted that I would find my destination, or help.
Is it that easy? Not really. Even today, I could not convince my GPS to accept the location. I needed to know that I could get back to the hotel every night this week without having to take a 40K detour. I can’t read directions when I am driving – perhaps due to the speed factor – so I need to rely on my GPS. My solution? I found a restaurant nearby that I could use as my destination. Problem solved.
If things don’t go the way you planned, try looking around for the solution.